Chaos, Kids & Commitment: Holding It Together One Week at a Time

Parenting is hard. Marriage is hard. Trying to do both at the same time while life keeps throwing stress, bills, bad news, and chaos your way? That’s a whole new level of hard. Some weeks I feel like we’re thriving—kids are halfway getting along, me and my husband are actually laughing together, and life feels almost normal. Other weeks? Well… let’s just say I’m holding it together with coffee, sarcasm, and a whole lot of prayer.

The truth is, marriage doesn’t get easier once you add kids into the mix. It gets louder, messier, busier, and more complicated. You go from late-night talks and date nights to arguing about who’s taking out the trash and who’s signing the school papers. Some days I wonder if we’ve even spoken to each other outside of “Did you put the clothes in the dryer?” or “Where are the football cleats?”

But here’s the thing—I’m learning that being intentional matters. Even if it’s just sitting on the porch for ten minutes together after the kids finally (hopefully) go to bed. Even if it’s sneaking a hug in the middle of the chaos. Even if it’s choosing to talk instead of scroll, laugh instead of snap, or forgive instead of stew.

It’s not perfect. Some weeks are pure gold, and some weeks are absolute shit. But that’s real life. That’s marriage and parenting—messy and beautiful all at once. And maybe the point isn’t to have it all figured out, but just to keep choosing each other through it all.

So if this week feels heavy, if the kids are wild, if the news is bad, and if the marriage feels more like survival mode than anything else—you’re not alone. I’m right there too, reminding myself that storms don’t last forever. And even when life feels hard, love is worth the work.

Devin❤️

"The Chaos"